** This is a repost of a Facebook Live session I did in our Raising Resilience Community Facebook group about how to talk with people who don't understand or support the food choices you've made (or want to make) for your kids. You can watch the original version and join the conversation here and there are links in this post to where I've spoken about this elsewhere. **
I'm sure you've been there...
You want to reduce the sugar your child's eating but everyone thinks you're depriving them of a happy childhood.
Or you want to try your child on a Paleo diet but your parenting partner thinks it's too restrictive and keeps giving them bagels.
Or you want to try a new strategy to help your picky eater get more nourishment in but everyone around you thinks they know better and every dinner explodes into a yelling match.
Or you are anxious about the holiday season because you know your whole family thinks you're a health fanatic and arguments about food happen every year.
You're certainly not alone if some version of this is a problem for you!
Conversations around food and feeding children so quickly spiral into conflict. How to talk about your choices in a way that doesn't leave you doubting your parenting decisions and feeling terrible is a juicy topic!
It's such an issue for so many parents that I've reposted here a Facebook Live session I did in our Raising Resilience Community Facebook group outlining how I suggest you structure challenging conversations so you can remain confident and secure.
I've spoken about this before. In this video post I outlined 4 ways these conversations get derailed.
And here is a link to an actual script you can modify, rehearse and use to keep things constructive.
In this session posted here I outined a 5-part structure you can use to make sure your challenging conversations remain positive.
Because if they don't, it's ultimately your child who misses out.
Using a structure like the one I talk about here while also steeringing away from the 4 pitfalls I talk about here and here, is the best way I know of to talk about your food choices with confidence and clarity and in a way that keeps you from letting your emotions get the better of you.
As always, the juicy conversation is happening in our group here, but you can also post your thoughts in the blog comments. I'd love to know how you manage these challenging conversations....
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Jess is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist™ and Family Health Expert, specializing in brain health & resilience for kids. She is the author of Raising Resilience: Take the stress out of feeding your family & love your life, a mother and an advocate for children’s health. Her book and online resources have helped families all over the world improve the lives of their children with learning differences, anxiety, ADHD, autism and mood disorders by fitting the food and feeding piece into their health puzzles. She is the 2019 recipient of the CSNNAA award for Clinical Excellence for her work helping families get healthier, and she continues to work at bringing an understanding of the power of good nutrition to the mainstream conversation about children’s mental health, learning, and overall resilience through her blog, courses and as a contributor to print and online magazines. You can reach Jess at www.jesssherman.com
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