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5 tips for surviving your first 12 months of mothering

I have three children.  And each time I got a little better, a little bolder, a little stronger.  With each child I felt a little more in control.  But for each child, the first 12 months were the hardest, emotionally and physically.

Pregnancy, birth and recovery take an immense amount of energy.  They are energy suckers.  They are nutrient sappers.  Being a new mother is inevitably stressful.  New learning curve, new expectations, new sleep patterns…. all new. Even if it’s your second or third time.  

What I teach in my Mamaboost course  (that’s my on-line course on postpartum adjustment and recovery)  is that, while it’s great to take time for yourself, meditate, and do yoga, you also have to learn how to support your body through this inevitably stressful time of life.

Here are 5 things I want all new mothers to know. 5 ways you can support your body through the stressful first year of mothering.

1. Don’t Exercise… until….

Best thing you can do to get yourself back “in shape” during your first 12 months of parenting is sleep. Gentle weight bearing, stretching and yoga are fine. But don’t try high intensity stuff that raises your heart rate until you are sleeping at least 5 hours in a row most nights. Doing so will increase your cortisol level, worsen your overall hormone imbalance, increase the stress on your already stressed-out body, and make you feel even worse (and maybe even gain weight!).

2. Banish Guilt

When you were pregnant you made all sorts of promises about what you would and wouldn’t do or be as a parent, right? You had a vision. But things might not be stacking up the way you wanted. Truth is, you didn’t know what you didn’t know.  None of us did. You were in mama-bliss la-la land. You had no idea what your challenges would be. You will continue to be surprised. Never say “never” and forgive yourself. You are on a steep learning curve.

3. Establish Your Filter

In the age of too-much-information and never-enough-time, when a Google search will tell you you’re doing it all wrong and then a Facebook post will assure you you’re actually on the right track, it’s a wonder we don’t all go insane from all the advice!  On the flip side, you can reach out across the globe and find your community. You can find support no matter where you are.  There is no one right way to parent. You will need to find your way.  Go back to that vision you had of yourself as a parent, go back to your values and your goals and find a community that resonates with you. Filter out all the rest. 

4. Replenish Yourself

Sure, life is busy, but nutritional deficits and dehydration brought about by your pregnancy can be contributing to your moodiness, insomnia, baby blues and fatigue. Given how darn busy and stressed you are, supplements can also be useful to fill the gaps.  My top 4 recommendations:

  1. a probiotic to rebalance your gut bacteria and reduce the chance of atopic conditions like eczema and allergy in your baby.
  2. a purified fish oil with at least 2400mg of DHA if you are breastfeeding, 1200mg if you are not. Yes, that’s a lot! It’s enough to replenish your own stores and fortify your breastmilk
  3. a good prenatal – continue for 6 months postpartum. If the prenatal includes probiotics and DHA, it likely does not contain enough. Take #1 and #2 anyhow.
  4. a B-stress complex.  This will help your adrenal recovery – a process that can take about two years. You are in a stressful time of life… no getting around it!  Choose one without adaptogen herbs for now, as few have been studied for safety while breastfeeding.

5. Learn To Ask For And Accept Help

You are strong.  You are capable.  You can do this.  But it really does take a village.  The social support around childbirth and parenting used to be much stronger (and in some cultures it still is!).  Find communities to support you – whether that is family, partners, neighbours, friends, on-line, mommy groups, or social services.  Be specific in what you need and feel good about asking to get those needs met.  Accepting help with grace can be difficult.  But it is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength.

Starting to feed your baby? For more details on starting your baby off on real, whole foods, alternative to commercial rice cereal click here…

If you suspect postpartum mood disorders are setting in, read this post for nutritional strategies

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About Jess Sherman, M.Ed, R.H.N

Jess is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist™ and Family Health Expert, specializing in brain health & resilience for kids. She is the author of Raising Resilience: Take the stress out of feeding your family & love your life, a mother and an advocate for children’s health. Her book and online resources have helped families all over the world improve the lives of their children with learning differences, anxiety, ADHD, autism and mood disorders by fitting the food and feeding piece into their health puzzles. She is the 2019 recipient of the CSNNAA award for Clinical Excellence for her work helping families get healthier, and she continues to work at bringing an understanding of the power of good nutrition to the mainstream conversation about children’s mental health, learning, and overall resilience through her blog, courses and as a  contributor to print and online magazines. You can reach Jess at www.jesssherman.com 


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